Finding Happiness In Your Marriage

When it comes to finding happiness in your marriage, it shouldn’t be a chore! And, it’s not something that requires deep psychological analysis. Yet, many couples seem to think that real, long-lasting happiness in marriage is something that only happens in movies. Wrong!

What you see on the screen isn’t real, they’re actors following a script! And, even what appears to be the most perfect marriage will have some hiccups now and then.

It’s a fact that, when it comes to life, nothing is perfect, but that’s O.K.! People have their faults and bad days, and everyone should be allowed to make mistakes.

 

So, if you’re having a tough time finding happiness in your marriage, realize that you can improve how you and your partner feel. You know that you’re in love with each other, then it’s worth working towards achieving a married life that’s as happy as it can possibly be by making all these small steps and investing in things like Viagra Original to improve your marriage.

How To Build Happiness In Your Marriage

  1. Step outside yourself. It’s a good idea to consider what it’s like to walk a mile in your partner’s shoes. If you run into a conflict or disagreement, instead of concentrating solely on how you’re feeling, consider your partner’s feelings first.
  1. Pick your battles. Sometimes fights in marital situations are inevitable because you’re two different human beings with two sets of opinions. Determine whether your feelings are truly worth fighting for, or if you can reach a compromise. Perhaps you’ve gotten into a petty little fight about something that’s really unimportant. Learn from that mistake and try to avoid that unhappiness in the future.
  1. Learn how to argue the right way. Avoiding disagreements with your partner entirely can very often lead to unhealthy consequences. For example, either you or your spouse (sometimes both) may repress certain anger and frustrations, with neither of you getting what you need out of the relationship.

Learning how to express your feelings of discontent with your partner’s actions or behavior, without getting into an all-out yelling match, or worse, is vitally important for the health of your marriage.

  • When you disagree, avoid saying personally hurtful things simply to win points!
  • If things are getting out of control, take a break for a while and come back to the conversation when your emotions aren’t running as high. Take time to cool off!
  • Use phrases such as “I get upset when you do this…” instead of lashing out with name-calling or accusing your partner of always doing the wrong thing.
  1. Spend time away from your spouse. While this might sound counter-intuitive, time alone is an important part of any marriage. Of course, you enjoy your time together, but you also need to explore who you are as an individual. Allow each other time to spend with friends and take time for yourself to enjoy activities that you like doing.
  1. Work on your communication skills. While there are some married couples that communicate well, naturally, others won’t. If you feel that you’re not connecting effectively with your partner, make an effort to improve this aspect of your relationship.

Make time every day, if possible, to really converse with your partner. Talk about your feelings and issues that are important to you, instead of simply turning on the TV!

  1. Take your spouse out on a date! Just like you used to when you first met. Relationships can get stale and become boring because people are given the opportunity to grow apart. Plan your “married dates” and make them special.
  1. Learn how to listen. While this tip could very easily be lumped with point #5 (Communication Skills), the art of being a good listener perhaps deserves special emphasis.

A spouse always has to deal with a lot of venting. This is because you and your partner are likely to be best friends and you should be there for each other in good, as well as bad times. If your partner has had a bad day, be there to listen to him or her.

Simply knowing how to really listen to what each other is saying will improve your overall communication.

Psychology And Personality Testing – Why These Tests Are Important In Our Daily Relationships

Every since I was rather young I have been fascinated with personality tests and have taken as many as I could get my hands on. For a few years during my early teens I would even make trips out to the local library for the express intent of finding books on personality types. I have a strong desire to understand how different personality types work together-or against on another! My mind frequently wandered when meeting new people to trying to guess what their personality types might be and whether or not they would be easy or hard for me to get along with. Also, personality congruence is a major factor in having a healthy relationship. So you just skip the games alternatives and just focus on what really matters the most. This will allow you to maintain healthy relationship with your partner and make it last.

I was thrilled to be directed through a university psychology class to the Keirsey personality assessment since it was one that I had not taken before. I was familiar with the concept of “color-coded” personalities, but I had not yet been introduced to the four categories presented by this test, which included the following personality types: the Guardians, the Idealists, the Artisans, and the Rationalists. Upon completion of the test I was initially surprised to see that I fall in with the Idealists, though after reading the description given it was only too clear that it described me fairly well (in spite of my many changing answers as I dealt with my often indecisive nature…) and I agreed with the assessment.

I think that being able to discern the personalities and temperaments of those with whom we are required to spend large quantities of time (friends, family, co-workers) can be invaluable. A better understanding of personality can lead us to create more harmonious work and personal environments, provide more rapid conflict resolution techniques, and enable us to communicate more effectively with those around us. Therefore, I continue to seek out opportunity to learn more about my own personality and that of those with whom I spend my time and energies.

Another interesting website offering a variety of personality tests is 2h.com. With my study of and joy in personality testing I have even developed a few fun personality tests of my own, and I would love to some day have the qualifications to share those tests and theories in a professional setting.

It was interesting for me to note that social psychology and the tests listed on this site are not limited to simple personality but include intelligence tests, emotional IQ tests, aptitude tests, and so on. Based on the number of hits for this site and others like it, I am not alone in my fascination regarding personality tests and my desire to have a greater understanding of my own personality and that of those around me. This is where the education and experience of a social psychologist can be of great worth.

I thoroughly enjoyed the wide variety of tests offered on this website and will endeavor some day to complete them all. Yet I feel that it is important to understand that because these tests are self-evaluated there is a tendency to be biased toward oneself. I would appreciate the results more from a test that required additional input from the five people closest to you.

Social psychology has revealed to us what many of us have suspected for many years-that our personality can and frequently does change with age, life status, and other major factors including friend choice, marriage, children, and culture changes. Studying various groups of people who fall into a similar category can provide us with great clues as to the psychological structure of individuals in that group, therefore a much wider variety of people are choosing to seek the assistance of a social psychologist before implementing new marketing methods, hiring tactics, devising employee handbooks, and so forth.

I would greatly love someday to have enough background and experience in psychology and social work to be able to travel as a youth motivational speaker. To be able to teach others to recognize their personality type and the personality types of those with whom they associate would be priceless to me indeed.

5 Day Plan On How To Get Your Girlfriend Back

If you are reading this than you have carefully thought it through and in-spite of the harsh break-up, the drama and the demeaning exchange of words you have decided that you want your ex back and you are willing to do anything to secure that relationship. This means that you will longer sit around and wait for fate to bring you back together or for cupids rusty arrows to find the back of their neck. This means you are going in with all the arsenals you know and possess and you will not relent until you have achieved victory.

By now your ex is somewhere between confused and trying to put up a strong personality in order not to feel pathetic, trying to hang out more with friends in order to shake off the effect, she won’t see this coming. Initiate the 5 day plan on how to get your ex girlfriend back.

DAY 1: Reopen communications

Your quest is going to be a lot easier if you and your ex-girlfriend are on talking terms. Call and discuss random details, make a few attempts to lighten the mood by cracking a few jokes. Once she is comfortably laughing at your jokes and having a great conversation with you then you have scored for day one.

DAY 2: Seek her opinion on Official or private issues.

Everyone knows people only seek the opinion of those you trust or care about. She would feel special, being put on spot light to render her advice on something that really matters to you.

DAY 3: Know her Schedule

This would help you surprise her. Pop up at places where she least expects to see you. This would make you seem adventurous, mysterious, and sneaky.  Women love a good surprise.

DAY 4: Buy her Gifts

Appreciate her by buying nice gifts or really useful gifts. Make a list of things she really needs and surprise her with them.

Day 5: Take her on a date

This is the final stage and most important, find an upcoming event that she is really into. Offer to take her to the event. When that day comes, show her the best date of her life and you might go home with more than just a kiss. Happy Hunting!